Believe it… or not!
Every year thousands of people across the globe attend courses and buy books on goal setting, goal getting and personal achievement. Their goals are often the same ones they made last year such as going to the gym more often, watching less television, to eat healthy food and meditate every day. The sad truth is most never reach their true potential or put into practice the tools and techniques that they have learned because they simply go back to the way they’ve always done things and choose the same ‘food’ from the menu of life. As they get older they then wonder why their life is not quite the way they imagine when they were younger. So why is it so difficult to change?
The answer is simple. It’s because your unconscious mind is running the show.
Your reality is built on your already existing store of memories, emotions, association and identity which is all stored at the unconscious level. Indeed, every single behavior that you demonstrate, whether it be good, bad or ugly is actually run by your unconscious mind. Neuroscience estimates that the conscious mind provides 5% or less of our cognitive activity during the day. That means that even when you think you are consciously making a decision, that decision is actually based on pre-existing programs and patters running at the unconscious level.
So in order to change a belief or an unwanted behavior you need to get to know your unconscious mind.
Think of it like a computer. Consider your conscious mind as the keyboard and monitor. Nothing happens unless the keyboard and monitor are connected to the hard drive. Your unconscious mind holds the programs and can be likened to the hard drive. Essentially, the unconscious mind is a recording and playback mechanism forming the habit mind. And did I mention that it is 1 million times more powerful than the conscious mind?
The good news is you really can reprogram the “software” in your brain.
Chances are, you have picked up some worthy and helpful beliefs, behaviors and programs as a child and it’s likely that you also absorbed and created some negative beliefs which may no longer serve you today.
Here are a few tips to point you in the right direction.
#1Limiting Belief: ‘I’m just unlucky, I can’t do anything about it’
How to challenge it: Be the cause for all the effects in your life. Life is a chain reaction of causes and effects. Everything that happens was caused by what happened before and is the effect for what will happen next. The important thing is whether you choose to think of yourself as being on the Cause side of the equation or on the Effect side. Some people seem stuck on the ‘Effect’ side of life, bemoaning their bad luck. Others habitually think of themselves on the ‘Cause’ side of life, always doing and achieving things.
The question to ask yourself is ‘how have I created this situation in my life and more importantly, what can I do about it?’
#2 Limiting Belief: ‘I’m not good enough, ‘I’ll never amount to anything’
How to challenge it: No doubt you have heard the saying, ‘whether you believe you can, or whether you believe you can’t, you’re probably right!’ Your beliefs form the rules that you run your life on for better or worse. Your beliefs are literally behind everything you do whether you know it or not. People often think that experience is what leads to beliefs, but it’s actually the other way around. Your beliefs shape your destiny. For example, if deep down you believe you’re not good enough to accomplish something, then that belief will create your reality. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. So when was the last time you examined your beliefs? Are they outdated and only supporting a limited view of what’s really possible for you? Maybe it’s time to choose your own beliefs rather than operate from those passed down by your ancestors. You begin to change your beliefs in the moment you recognize them. Imagine turning the light on in a dark room so that you can instantly see what has been tripping you up when you’ve been walking around. Now the light is on!
#3 Limiting Belief: It won’t for me,’ ‘Bad things like that always happen to me’
How to challenge it: Your thoughts and what you create in the world is expressed in your language, therefore if you change your language, you begin to change your universe. You can change the language you use every day to label people, events, situations and circumstances in your life. As soon as the label you put on them changes, your experience and perception of the person, the event, the situation or the circumstance also changes.
Once you realize you’re creating your life as you go along, it gives you the power to change. You can choose to pay attention to different things, interpret experiences differently, feel differently and act differently.
ABOUT Carol Talbot
Carol is considered is an inspiration in the inspiration business. She is sought-after by organizations and individuals seeking a learning consultant, thought-partner, and keynote speaker ‘with a difference’. It is her uncanny, compelling ability to bring the edginess of systems such as NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) – she is a master trainer, and the fiery energy of Fire Walking to resonate with the ‘coal face’ of business and life that truly sets Carol alight, and apart, from others in the arena. Indeed, for more than two decades, she has stepped out to help fire out creativity and greatness within individuals and teams worldwide, by engaging them with her wise words and compelling delivery; one-on-one or to an audience of 1000s, when Carol speaks, people listen. Her latest book, YOU the Divine Genius is now an Amazon International Best-seller.